SPANKING FOR THE FIRST TIME
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There are six TYPES OF ADULT SPANKINGS this page deals with so called " play " spankings , although much of what is said here applies to other types , including punishment spankings .
The first spanking for an adult should be as pleasurable as possible . If the experience is positive , it is likely to be repeated . This page is a " 101 " or primer for those new to spanking .
The contents of the FREQUENTLY ASKED QUESTIONS Page should be read and understood in conjunction with this page . The MENU page lists the main practical advice pages on the site . Do not get too involved with detail at this stage .
We try to keep sex out of the spanking equation for various reasons ( see FAQ Page ) . Likewise , the sex of the participants is not regarded as a major factor in our pages . Our visitors are interested in the following approximate " mixes " in spanking :
55 % Male / Female
30 % Female / Male
10 % Female / Female
5 % Male / Male
This ratio is replicated in our pages , where possible . ( Some things are difficult to come by , for example , Female / Male cartoons from the 1950 's . )
Many visitors are interested in more than one " mix " , e.g. " switches " who reverse roles .
Do you want to spank or be spanked ?
To start with , both participants should be happy to " Give it a go " , with a light to medium spanking ( see LEVELS Page ) . It is important not to be judgemental , just follow the suggestions on this page and take it from there . Consider personal SAFETY and the use of SAFEWORDS . It is suggested that , in the beginning , only the hand is used together with the classic over the knee position , which is relatively comfortable , intimate and good for " control " . A bare bottom is best both because of the better sense of touch and the ability to monitor the bottom's state as the spanking progresses .
The recipient should be comfortable position ( it may be necessary to support the upper body ) before starting . The spanking should begin with a gentle warm up over the whole buttocks ( see M/F image above ) with rubbing and resting occasionally . Keep up a conversation using positive terms , this helps to gauge how the recipient is taking the spanking and builds a positive attitude . This preliminary process should take about 5 minutes . The spanking proper may take another 5 to 10 minutes , after which the bottom should look like this ( not redder ! ) :
The spankee may or , most probably , may not CRY as a result of the spanking . Take crying as it comes , it should occur towards the end , if the spanking level was correctly progressed .
On the other hand , laughing would suggest increasing the LEVEL !
The final stage is a gentle massage , perhaps with some HONEYBUN CREAM .
Talking about the experience afterward is a very important part of the exercise , especially when a female is involved . Many males forget to do this !
After one has lost one's spanking virginity , so to speak , the next step is to try out some IMPLEMENTS and other positions to find the type and method of spanking which suits you and your spanking partner .
VIDEO CLIPS
These clips have been selected to show a variety of implements , positions , etc. and show experienced participants .
" American Girl English Cane "
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" Burchington Manner "
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A QUESTION
Hi ! I read what you have on your website about disciplinary spankings , but I have a question . There is someone I trust pretty well , who is willing to provide some disciplinary spankings for me ( for attitude and behavior modification ) . Neither of us is interested in anything playful or erotic , in the least . My mentor doesn't want to tell me how many spanks I'm going to receive , nor how long a disciplinary spanking lasts . He did say he will probably take me over his lap for my first spanking , do it bare-butt ( with thong panties on me , though ) , and he will most likely use a wooden hairbrush . He promises it will not be abusive or brutal , but he did say it will probably leave some marks . I am really wanting to know what you think , as far as how long such a spanking might take ? How will my mentor know when I've had enough , but not too much ? He doesn't want me to be overly focused on pending spankings , so he's not telling me everything yet . I'm hoping you can shed some light , as I'm really curious about how many swats I may get, how long it should take , and how sore I will end up being , and for how long . Thanks for any help you can offer--the curiosity is killing me !
.......... Anon
This is really along the lines of " How long is a piece of string ? " There are so many variables , for example , if he starts spanking hard with a hairbrush , you will be wanting up in seconds and probably in tears within a minute . If you completely trust him , and he knows what he is doing , we would advise leaving it up to him . If this is to be your first spanking , we would strongly suggest that you follow the procedure outlined on this page and make the next spanking a disciplinary one . That way he will know your tolerance level and you will know what you are in for .
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